Gay Pride Flag is Prettiest

rainbow ring

Jewelry of a rainbow-lovin’, gay-rights supportin’ Mom.

My son gave me a rainbow-colored ring recently as an I-love-you,-Mom gift. It’s beautiful and I love wearing it!


An older woman pointed it out when she noticed it at a small diner I was having lunch at with my friend.

“That’s pretty, dear, but you don’t want people to assume your one of those gays.”

brian jaw drop

To clarify, Stewie represents my friend. I’m the dog eating the larger ice cream.

I’m sure my jaw smacking the table prompted her quick departure after that. I simply didn’t have a polite reply for her ignorance.


I have a difficult time with some people’s closed-mindedness. This woman looked like Florence Henderson’s twin but without her grace and amazing sense of humor. I think she truly thought she was doing me a favor by bringing to my attention the impending judgement from others.

Let me be absolutely clear how much I love rainbows. If I belonged to a minority group of any kind and needed a flag to wave in support of my beliefs, I would have chosen a rainbow too. It’s the prettiest flag out there. The supportive meaning behind that rainbow flag is just a bonus as far as I’m concerned.

As a writer I’m open to criticism as long as it’s constructive or helpful in some way. I also believe everyone has a right to their own opinion (Go USA!). I guess I just need to figure out how to express my own thoughts without falling into a full-blown rant. Most days I think I pretend to live in a happy little world where everyone is accepting of everyone else. That would be so amazing!

Damn, those rose-colored glasses of mine! Maybe I just need

rose color glasses

Life is prettier with these on.

to spend all my money on rose-colored glasses for the rest of the world. One can dream…


So I really need to find a few words for people like this. Nothing crass. Just something polite enough to say in public but bold enough to make the point that opinions such as hers are unwelcome and ignorant.

gay pride flag

Prettiest Flag in the World

Maybe I should have just stated, “Just because someone different than you created the best-looking flag out there doesn’t mean you should hold a grudge. Gays are a peaceful people whose only character flaw is that they want to help the rest of us look as good as they do at any given moment.” But then again, the poor ignorant woman might have tripped on her own jaw after it hit the floor.


Any suggestions? How do you react to unwanted opinion/advice?

George R. R. Martin, This is NOT a Book Review

Game of Thrones

This is definitely NOT a book review of the Game of Thrones series. This is more of a book rant, I mean, recommendation.

*** Spoilers galore! *** If you don’t want to know any details about Game of Thrones, stop reading! ***

George RR MartinGeorge R. R. Martin, you drive me crazy but I’m in love with your imagination!

How can an author kill off some of our favorite characters, introduce some of us to some abhorrent behavior, and still keep us as such devout readers?

So, when’s the next in the series coming out? ;D

I’m not a big fan of series in any genre. I mean, it’s just too much commitment for someone who has a seven-foot stack of books next to her bed leering at her every night and every morning reminding her they need to be read yet. But because my bestie is fantabulous, I caved to her pleading and picked up the first book in the series, Game of Thrones.

Game of Thrones BooksMy first issue with the series was that there were so many characters with such strange and similar names. I mean, I can barely remember all my own kids’ names on a daily basis. It took me a few chapters before I decided I was going to at least stick it out and finish the first book. (Like I said before, so much commitment and such a mountainous to-read pile.) Some where between the end of the first book and the beginning of the second, A Clash of Kings, I was hooked.

The characters are definitely the fuel for this story. So much so that when the supposed main character in the first book, Lord Eddard Stark, was beheaded, I almost threw my Kindle across the room. (But, of course, I didn’t. Otherwise I wouldn’t have been able to finish the series in my favorite format.)

Eddard StarkMartin’s world building is fantastic but his character development is what I love most about these books. At the same time I was furious that Lord Eddard died, I wanted to keep reading and find out who was going to be next on the chopping block. I mean, if an author has the guts to kill off a main character, who’s next? Personally, I’ve been keeping my fingers crossed that the manipulative Cersei Lannister would join the many fallen in this series. It was only a slight consolation when her royal brat, Joffrey, perished in such a humiliating way.

So I’ve read seven books now in this Game of Thrones series. Seven! And I still don’t know the ending of this story!

What’s happened to Catlyn Stark? You know, the now-dead woman who used to be married to who we thought was the main character until he was brutally killed off by Stark Family TreeMartin in the very first book of the series.

And what about Jon Snow? Please tell me he isn’t actually dead.

Now all the Stark kids are grown and living their own adventuresome lives (except Robb, of course). I just want them to all live happily ever after – is that too much to ask? Well, and I want to see Cersei Lannister’s head on a spike eventually.

I can only assume that because of the confidence Mr. Martin expresses when killing off so many wonderful characters (good ones, bad ones, and non-human ones) that the story is on the verge of some monumental climax that we, as readers, will love him even more for in the end.

So, please, please, PLEASE!, Mr. Martin, please give us the next book in your series. This waiting is driving me mad.

What did you think of Game of Thrones?

dictionaryI love learning new words! I know, I’m crazy. But after discovering words that I’d never seen before in all the books I’ve been devouring, I decided to be more proactive with my vocabulary. I found a great app from for my phone. Every day it sends me a new word to learn its meaning, pronunciation, origin, and even synonyms and antonyms for it. I have to admit that so far most of these new-to-me words haven’t been found in any of the books I’ve been reading, but I have found some utilized in a Stephen King novel and even the Game of Thrones book series.

mary poppinsPlus, there are some words too amazing to think I might have deprived myself of ever knowing their existence. Like “floccinaucinihilipilification.” The first moment I saw this word, I thought of Mary Poppins’ “supercalifragilisticexpialidocious.” Of course, Mary’s million-dollar-word was completely imagined. “Floccinaucinihilipilification” is actually a real word – not that anyone ever uses it that I can find. It’s a noun Latin in origin and means the estimation of something as valueless. But even if you understand its definition, you’re more likely to use it “as an example of one of the longest words in the English language” according to’s app. The best part of this particular new vocab word is listening to the app pronounce it for you. It sounds more like a medical diagnosis than a word that refers to something as valueless.

I enjoy experimenting with new vocabulary. Of course to add a ton of 20-letter words just for the sake of it adds nothing to my writing and only confuses the reader. But I do like adding one or two uncommon words to challenge my readers.

Sometimes I find that I like a word just because it sounds funny. “Bumper” sounds very funny to me when you repeat it. “Blubber” and “shrubbery” also make me grin. There is too many favorites for me to list without simply boring you all to death. So just don’t be lackadaisical.

Do you have any favorites?

Thrills and Chills, Or Bloody As Hell?

n. an intense feeling of fear, shock, or disgust.

n. an intense feeling of fear, shock, or disgust.

What makes a good horror story? I often ask myself this. It seems everyone has different ideas on the answer. A great horror novel to me usually involves suspense, mystery, drama, and sometimes a little romance.

There are a ton of subgenres for horror: gothic, contemporary, supernatural, psychological, science-fiction, erotic, satanic/religious, and more. I’m a reader who loves suspense much more than gore. So contemporary dark fantasy horror is probably my favorite subgenre.

no imagination, no horrorIt seems many books I pick up that are categorized in the horror genre regardless of subgenre have bloody violence in them. Although I do think some scenes call for such graphic displays for impact, I don’t support adding abhorrence just for the sake of it. I love dark, creepy characters. I think they add more to a story than an isolated display of terror. Complex, eerie characters draw in my attention. I want to know what makes them tick. Strange situations and sinister plot twists are also delectable to me. I enjoy the startling feeling when something happens in a book I never expected.

I guess I just think it’s a mistake to add a gruesome scene to a story just because the writer assumes it must have that in order to be considered real horror. There have been many stories I’ve read that would benefit from deleting a blood-soaked display that seemed to be only added as unnecessary description. I think the story itself is much more important than the pageantry of a hideous monster devouring a bloodied, screaming girl. Of course, that’s only my opinion. Considering the popularity of the many Saw movies, I could be way off base here.

Overlook Hotel

“Sometimes human places, create inhuman monsters.” – Stephen King, The Shining

I believe a good story has many facets of the genres available out there. Real life covers many different domains. Why shouldn’t a written story as well? As a writer I think every story reflects reality. Even fantasy has realistic attributes that have readers believing fictional characters and places truly exist. I would love to some day crawl through the back of an old wardrobe and find myself in another world. Maybe Narnia, maybe some place more like the Overlook Hotel.

So why do we consider any story a representation of the horror genre? Well, a good horror story frightens and even shocks its readers. The story usually focuses on death, evil, or a demonic presence, or the after-life. All this seems like enough creepiness to keep me reading without adding causeless carnage.

Sometimes the woods are a dangerous place...

Sometimes the woods are a dangerous place…

A great story involving deep, dark characters keep me loyal to many authors of the horror genre. Kathryn Meyer Griffith’s Evil Stalks The Night is a great read that still causes me to shiver when darkness floods the woods around my home. Of course, Stephen King is a huge favorite of mine too. The suspense he builds is phenomenal when little Danny Torrance fears the fire hose mounted on the wall is going to strike at him. I felt like I was holding my breath for four pages. The short stories of Joe Hill and Edgar Allan Poe are also favorites I’ve reread many times.

Ultimately I just don’t believe gore equals good. It’s more like gore equals gross for me.

What do you think? Is an unholy bloodbath necessary in the horror novels you read? Or are you happier when the thrill and suspense are the more prominent characteristics?

How I Use Writing Prompts

I recently tried writing prompts for the first time within a writers’ group. I always thought writing prompts would have me starting a million different short stories and consequently prohibit me from ever finishing any of them or ever working on my novel again.

doh!I could not have been more wrong in my thinking.

Not only was creating with writing prompts fun, it really got my creativity flowing! It was enlightening for this newbie writer.

I’ve since been using writing prompts to get my mind back in the game after my daily lunch break from plugging away at my novel. In the past I’ve simply sat at my desk hoping inspiration would somehow pop into my mind for me to finish where I’d earlier left off in my novel. Now I have a concise plan using writing prompts!

I just sit down at my desk and let three or four writing prompts kick off the inspiration and creativity before picking up my manuscript and adding to it again. Not only is this new plan helping me get more done on my work-in-progress, but I’ve collected a few golden nuggets from the prompts I’ve used. These new story snippets go into my “Future Projects” folder where I keep a collection of partial stories, written scenes, and story ideas to delve into when my current project is finally finished.

If you’re more inspired by pictures, photos, or graphics (or simply addicted to Pinterest), then check out these other writing prompts I’ve found…

cook your brother promptaxe girl prompt







So I avoid any writing prompts that seem too serious. It’s just too difficult for me to create a few sentences on such subjects like this prompt seems to include…


I try to use prompts that don’t require a week’s worth of research or create the fear of God’s wrath upon me for my response. Of course, that’s just me. Every writer requires different inspiration I suppose. What’s yours?