My son gave me a rainbow-colored ring recently as an I-love-you,-Mom gift. It’s beautiful and I love wearing it!
An older woman pointed it out when she noticed it at a small diner I was having lunch at with my friend.
“That’s pretty, dear, but you don’t want people to assume your one of those gays.”
I’m sure my jaw smacking the table prompted her quick departure after that. I simply didn’t have a polite reply for her ignorance.
I have a difficult time with some people’s closed-mindedness. This woman looked like Florence Henderson’s twin but without her grace and amazing sense of humor. I think she truly thought she was doing me a favor by bringing to my attention the impending judgement from others.
Let me be absolutely clear how much I love rainbows. If I belonged to a minority group of any kind and needed a flag to wave in support of my beliefs, I would have chosen a rainbow too. It’s the prettiest flag out there. The supportive meaning behind that rainbow flag is just a bonus as far as I’m concerned.
As a writer I’m open to criticism as long as it’s constructive or helpful in some way. I also believe everyone has a right to their own opinion (Go USA!). I guess I just need to figure out how to express my own thoughts without falling into a full-blown rant. Most days I think I pretend to live in a happy little world where everyone is accepting of everyone else. That would be so amazing!
Damn, those rose-colored glasses of mine! Maybe I just need
to spend all my money on rose-colored glasses for the rest of the world. One can dream…
So I really need to find a few words for people like this. Nothing crass. Just something polite enough to say in public but bold enough to make the point that opinions such as hers are unwelcome and ignorant.
Maybe I should have just stated, “Just because someone different than you created the best-looking flag out there doesn’t mean you should hold a grudge. Gays are a peaceful people whose only character flaw is that they want to help the rest of us look as good as they do at any given moment.” But then again, the poor ignorant woman might have tripped on her own jaw after it hit the floor.
Any suggestions? How do you react to unwanted opinion/advice?